Perception is often the basis for fact
One of our individual traits, or maybe not a trait but a gift that we all have, is perception. No one is in charge of it except us. We choose our perception and oftentimes are surprised when something changes it.
What we perceive as truth is automatic. I would say subconscious except we are actively determining it, every day, all day long. There is a learned ability to take in information, format it into categories that include our senses, emotions, and experiences, and then file that thought/perception as a known fact. Whether it is an actual fact remains to be seen, that all depends on who is the deciding individual. That my friend is the tricky yet awesome ability of our perception. One person can and will perceive the exact same circumstances differently.
The gift of perception is that we make it our own. If we don’t like it, we have the ability to change it. Take for example our bedroom. You walk into your room, and it looks like a tornado struck. You don’t particularly enjoy the feeling or the vision in front of you, so guess what? Change it! Make it what you would like to perceive your room to look like. Easy peasy. Except it’s going to take a bit of work, maybe a big chunk of work. If you don’t want to do the work, you can change your perception. One way or the other, you are in control.
All of us have the gift. We see what we want to see. Some people don’t mind the tornado bedroom, messy rooms are just fine. I know a few people like that. I don’t understand them. It makes absolutely no sense to me. I can’t be comfortable in a room that is a pigsty. We all have different perceptions. Age changes perceptions, a lot! It’s funny how something that is “just fine”, when you’re young is “no way” when you are an adult.
What about laziness? That’s not a perception, that’s a fact. People with messy rooms (dare I say messy lives) have different perceptions, but maybe they don’t. Maybe, they would like to have neater places to reside, but they haven’t learned how. What if they had never known anything but the mess? Then that would have to be their perception of what rooms (lives) look like. Living in the mess would be normal.
How about the issue that we (meaning you and me) think our perception is the better one and they (meaning the other guys) is inaccurate? What then? Who is right and is there a right? And who is the judge?
This can be a slippery slope because we have ours and they have there’s if the Twix don’t mix a problem can ensue. Learn to live and let live, if you can’t find common ground find a nice boat and take a cruise.